Spontaneous sex gets hyped like it's the sexual Olympics—but science says the planned stuff can be just as hot, if not hotter. The "real men just pounce" myth? Nah!! Back in your teens and early twenties, your hormones were basically a car alarm going off 24/7—ready to go at the slightest breeze. That so-called "spontaneous" sex was really just your biology ready to hump the sofa. But grown-up sex? That needs a bit more strategy than just showing up. The Myth: Always Ready, A

If one is to take bodice ripping page turners and social media as scientific evidence, then every man is in the midst of a sex frenzy, or he is thinking about it, or he is recovering from glorious sex, rearing to go at it again. If this were true, one might wonder how all these men manage to get through a full day of work, commute, family, friends, sport and all other commitments when their mind's only focus is sex and the glorious Commander stands rigid and ready to fire 24/

This is my new series of shorts on male sexuality entitled M.A.N. UP, or Myths, Anxieties & Nonsense... UnPacked. What's triggered this desire to delve into the complexities surrounding male sexuality now? Well, it's November, and in the UK this means two things for men: Movember and International Men's Day. Movember ( https://uk.movember.com/?home ) is a global movement that started in Australia in the early 2000s. It takes place each November to raise awareness and funds fo

A crisp Sunday morning in early October called for a walk in the South Downs, an area southwest of London filled with woods, dappled...

Friends with Benefits – on the surface it sounds quite simple and straightforward. In 'When Harry Met Sally' (a cult classic with Billy...

I'm amazed by how statistics from dating apps show that 'a connection' ranks at 38% of most common desires (by the way, humour is the...

It's interesting how quickly we seek new labels to define ourselves once we've shed the constricting combo of monogamy and...

When it comes to the impact of Incel, blue, red, black pill ideologies, where is individual responsibility? And by 'individual' I mean...

The Father, a central, pivotal role in bringing up a healthy child;  if a girl, the first encounter with a male figure that will affect...

It is not easy being a mother—this is a notion drummed into every person, child and adult alike, from birth. Undoubtedly this is true....

I have been reading about Incels following the recent ' Adolescence ' series on Netflix. The acting was raw and felt real, the...

Male desire… is there such a notion in this day and age when men have so often taken what they wanted on the basis they are entitled to...

I said before I am not versed in the intricacies of understanding the judicial system in the UK, and by no means do I want to comment on...

The April 16th UK Supreme Court ruling defined what a ‘woman’ is in the eyes of the law. The cheering and cork popping on one side and...

My holistic view is based on the MEBES® model and takes a step back from looking at the sexual concern of the Client to explore the areas...

A new year. A new start. The post party exhaustion still lingers and with it the feeling of time suspended, in limbo, the ‘actual’ start...

And how is that you ask? Well, I am not an historian so I will spare how it came to be that an entomologist, aka a researcher of creepy...

I spent last weekend fully immersed in a SAR workshop, emerging dazed, exhausted, over excited, joyous and hopeful. SAR stands for Sexual...

The Sex Coach is a champion for the Client, providing guidance, suggestions, resources that help the Client find their truth and make...

….and no one is around to hear it….does it make a sound? What a curious, restricted, typical human-centric view of the world. Of course...