First and foremost, sex is not a marathon, nor a sprint. There's no ribbon to cross, no victory lap holding aloft a flag emblazoned with a penis. There's no gold medal for who comes first, last, or not at all. If this is your idea of sex, you're setting yourself up for disappointment. Beliefs like this permeate men's lives in all sorts of ways, and the consequences are significant. In the case of Early Ejaculation (EE), it's the pressure to perform, and to meet expectations y

Early Ejaculation (EE), also called Premature Ejaculation (PE) — though I'm personally more inclined towards the less judgemental EE — occurs when ejaculation takes place earlier than the penis owner in question expects. Estimates vary, but most research suggests it affects somewhere between 3 in 10 men so it is a topic worth exploring. There are a number of phases in the sexual response cycle that end in ejaculation, one of which is the excitement phase, when things start to

When it comes to communication in a relationship there is a tendency to assume -read impose!- the female lens, based on talking things through, dissecting, analysing, time travelling, until the cows come home. This is absolutely a generalisation, as communication styles are not gendered but individual- gender itself being a very loose concept- however, there are traits, driven by a combination of nature and nurture (largely family, culture, environment), that tend to be expr

Making my way across the Millennium Bridge in London a couple of weeks ago, I came across the Big Issue seller I see on occasion. I stopped to buy the latest issue and got stuck reading an article about Richard Gadd, whom you probably know as the actor and writer of Baby Reindeer. I had not watched the series, though I had heard the furore surrounding it, so I did not know what to expect. Gadd is now promoting a new project entitled Half Man, a story that follows the lives of

We’re Wired for It. That’s Exactly the Problem. As humans we are primed by Nature to seek out sugar, as well as fat. Sugar provides an instant energy boost that would have come in rather handy when being chased by a predator, or for survival in nutrient-poor environments. In our hunting and gathering past — which is, in evolutionary terms, not that long ago — sugar was not readily available. It was only about 150 years ago, with the mass processing of sugar cane and later sug

It is normal for even the most ardent and passionate lover to be tired, stressed, or unwell at times — and therefore not in the most appropriate state of mind for intimacy. These same reasons apply to women and vulva owners and affect their sexual response in a similar way, with two notable differences. The first is that the effects of these stressors are not as visible, since the similar erectile tissue that engorges during male erection is mostly hidden in the female body,

The beauty of medical terminology is that it is factual, clinical and unequivocal — essential for ensuring that what is being researched within the walls where white coats roam with stethoscopes is clearly and unambiguously understood. Erectile Dysfunction, or ED for those in a hurry, is the terminology used by the medical profession to refer to situations where, during a sexual encounter, a penis owner might not become erect at all, might not maintain an erection, or might f

This week's BBC article titled Death of the sex drive — and the great debate over whether testosterone can help get it back ( https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/ckg8r28d3lgo ) triggered a number of reactions in me. The answers presented hold true in multiple ways, and also don't, yet none provide the ultimate answer to the role of this hormone, its use, its abuse, or its impact. First and foremost, before we reach for the glass of water and gulp down the magic pill that wil

Are the sexual concerns and arousal difficulties you experience always physical in nature? The answer is yes... and no. First things first: if you notice something different in your sexual response, something that feels odd or unusual... don't ignore it. Look into it. You owe it to yourself to take care of project YOU, because if you don't, nobody else will. An erection that's softer than you remember, feeling as if you need more stimulation to respond, experiencing arousal f

And now to Management. In our personal and professional lives, we all know THE MANAGER (capital letters entirely deliberate). The person in control, the one you turn to when you've got 90 seconds before the train leaves and you need telling which platform to leg it to—delivered in that calm, authoritative voice that sorts everything. Your Manager at work, the one you turn to for encouragement or when some unreasonable stakeholder from another department is giving you grief—th

Enter Team Sperm The infrastructure is ready, the Ops teams are watching the screens attentively, raring to go. Management presses the button – Management does love a bit of drama – and a large 'GO' appears on the screen down on the shop floor. From this moment onwards, it's absolute mayhem. What triggered the 'GO' in the first place? Well, we all know Management. Everything and anything sets them off, so a smile, a whiff of perfume, a glimpse of a body part, a passing fantas

What makes this contraption work? Well, the Operations Team, of course. The Operations Team live a pretty simple, relaxed life for the majority of the time—until they're called to the shop floor by Management, after which it's all hands on deck and a flurry of activity. Once there's a green light for 'GO' and the prospect of intercourse, a number of things happen quasi-simultaneously that end with an erect penis and a package of semen ready to travel through it to its destina