So how is this feat of biological engineering made? Infrastructure, Cargo, Management Team Infrastructure The Outside Team is made up of the penis and the scrotal sac that holds the two testes. The Inside Team is rather more complex, but when you put it all together it makes perfect sense—nature excels at this sort of thing. A cross-section of the penis reveals three parallel tissue structures, rather alarmingly named 'corpus cavernosa' and 'corpus spongiosum', which really j

Since knowledge is power, let's get to know the male reproductive organ a little more…intimately, shall we? Time to debunk a few myths that refuse to die. Myth 1: There's a bone in the penis Believe it or not, in this day and age some people still reckon there's an actual bone in there contributing to erections. It doesn't help that we enthusiastically throw around the word 'boner' every time the penis stands to attention, and the tension and contraction felt in the groin cou

Well, this section would have to be split into parts, right? Such is the depth and breadth of the single most important organ in male anatomy, according to every man. Yep, I'm referring to a man's brain... what were you thinking? The brain is the main driver when it comes to penis behaviour, which—surprisingly—is not the steel rod always ready for action that the world of fantasy has led men and women to believe. To be fair, the external male genitalia has always been repres

Have you ever wondered how you can be happily going about your day feeling relaxed and playful, and within a split second your thoughts and emotions shift in a totally different direction without a clear understanding of how you got there? How did you move from one emotional space to another, and which route did it take you through? More interestingly: how do you move to a place where sex feels exciting and something to look forward to? What triggers the jump from 'this is ni

Spontaneous sex gets hyped like it's the sexual Olympics—but science says the planned stuff can be just as hot, if not hotter. The "real men just pounce" myth? Nah!! Back in your teens and early twenties, your hormones were basically a car alarm going off 24/7—ready to go at the slightest breeze. That so-called "spontaneous" sex was really just your biology ready to hump the sofa. But grown-up sex? That needs a bit more strategy than just showing up. The Myth: Always Ready, A

If one is to take bodice ripping page turners and social media as scientific evidence, then every man is in the midst of a sex frenzy, or he is thinking about it, or he is recovering from glorious sex, rearing to go at it again. If this were true, one might wonder how all these men manage to get through a full day of work, commute, family, friends, sport and all other commitments when their mind's only focus is sex and the glorious Commander stands rigid and ready to fire 24/

This is my new series of shorts on male sexuality entitled M.A.N. UP, or Myths, Anxieties & Nonsense... UnPacked. What's triggered this desire to delve into the complexities surrounding male sexuality now? Well, it's November, and in the UK this means two things for men: Movember and International Men's Day. Movember ( https://uk.movember.com/?home ) is a global movement that started in Australia in the early 2000s. It takes place each November to raise awareness and funds fo

A crisp Sunday morning in early October called for a walk in the South Downs, an area southwest of London filled with woods, dappled sunlight cutting through the tall trees—the pines, elms, and oaks that companionably share the space with the critters inhabiting the undergrowth or flapping noisily amongst their branches. As for us humans trampling the soft leaves, I sometimes think I hear their resigned groaning, the kind an adult would utter when observing the playing (and d

Friends with Benefits – on the surface it sounds quite simple and straightforward. In 'When Harry Met Sally' (a cult classic with Billy Crystal I urge all to watch), his character Harry tells Sally, played by Meg Ryan, that men and women cannot be friends as the sexual element always comes into play. He uses slightly more explicit words, but you get my gist. She seems surprised; he is adamant. Needless to say, they become friends, spend time together, get to really know each

I'm amazed by how statistics from dating apps show that 'a connection' ranks at 38% of most common desires (by the way, humour is the highest ranking). So why not focus on humour? Because while a sense of humour is an important part of relationships between individuals—and it's one of the characteristics that can form part of a connection—its lack doesn't spark a risk to health and even life itself. The WHO recently declared adult loneliness a global health threat akin to smo

It's interesting how quickly we seek new labels to define ourselves once we've shed the constricting combo of monogamy and heterosexuality. No sooner have we escaped one box than we're scrambling to find another, and now there are so many options it's hard to keep up. What drives this obsession with labels? What compels us to neatly file ourselves and others into the right section of the right cabinet? Several reasons come to mind. However partisan they may be, both monogamy

When it comes to the impact of Incel, blue, red, black pill ideologies, where is individual responsibility? And by 'individual' I mean yours or mine? When we attribute responsibility for our ills to faceless entities – 'community', 'society', 'culture' – we purposefully place ourselves on the outside looking in, like visitors at a zoo where the attractions are other human beings we're happy to visually dissect and point fingers at. There are countless excuses for avoiding the

The Father, a central, pivotal role in bringing up a healthy child; if a girl, the first encounter with a male figure that will affect her view of men and relationship choices for a lifetime; if a boy, a role model, somebody to look up to and whose behaviour, values and approach to life will be fundamental in how ‘boy’ will become ‘man’. Yet not much is known about what being Father actually means, and there is little literature exploring Father’s critical role in child heal

It is not easy being a mother—this is a notion drummed into every person, child and adult alike, from birth. Undoubtedly this is true. Raising a child to be a well-rounded, balanced, content adult, actively part of their community, is a big responsibility that requires care, thought, loads of patience, intuition, buckets full of ingenuity, colourful plasters and warm hugs. Yet patriarchal societies revered 'The Mother' figure as almost sacred while ensuring women would not as

I have been reading about Incels following the recent ' Adolescence ' series on Netflix. The acting was raw and felt real, the characters credible and relatable. My attention focused mainly on father and son, Eddie and Jamie Miller—on their relationship, looking for causality, for that single moment in time that would subvert the character of a seemingly happy-go-lucky kid and lead him to be drawn to Incel ideology that resulted, ultimately, in gruesome manslaughter. I was e

Male desire… is there such a notion in this day and age when men have so often taken what they wanted on the basis they are entitled to it by birthright, by DNA, by social norms, by divine decree? Well, it so happens that this is not desire. This is entitlement, and there is a fundamental difference. Male desire is rarely spoken of, as if it were something to be ashamed of and to be shamed for—because it gets confused with the patriarchal right to take without asking. The wor

I said before I am not versed in the intricacies of understanding the judicial system in the UK, and by no means do I want to comment on how the ruling came about following such a complex and multifaceted case. Mine is a call to consider this ruling a starting point rather than a conclusion, unlike the media's portrayal. If the cases in question were straightforward, they would likely not have reached this point, and despite the unanimous decision, this doesn't diminish its c

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